Raven, having discovered Delwin to be an unpleasant little thug in her one meeting with him, decides to try to offer a practical example of why being an unpleasant little thug is not necessarily the best approach to take to life, and, in this case, strategy.
Raven and Delwin will undertake a practice fencing session, with 'safe' rapiers. Raven will take a calm, defensive stance, and, if Delwin is a typical Amberite male with a little too much testosterone, he will presumably take an aggressive approach, and perhaps become frustrated at his inability to pierce her defenses (which he should be unable to do when she is fighting an entirely defensive battle). As he attempts to get to her, she will calmly (and no doubt infuriatingly) verbally point out every mistake he makes, in an effort to get him to lose his temper even further.
She will draw the battle out over a lengthy period, being purely defensive, and allowing him to expend his strength in attempts at overbearing tactics, then, once he is taking unnecessary risks, she will begin to take the offensive and systematically take apart his defenses, and after the pre-set number of touches (which she will make considerably more forceful than need be), the match will be ended, with Raven victorious, and Delwin ideally sullen and bruised in both pride and body.
At the end, she will sit him down and tell him the following.
"I beat you for three reasons, Delwin. If you can correct those three defects, you will become an excellent strategist. If not, a smarter individual will always be able to take advantage of your weaknesses.
"First, you lack patience. Having seen that I had settled into a defensive routine, and knowing that I am the better swordsperson, you persisted with an aggressive, tiring, offensive strategy. While I was expending a minimal amount of energy, you were wasting yours, and it simply became a waiting game. You must know when to strike, true, but you must also know how to await your opportunity. Ask Benedict, if you don't believe me.
"Second, you are too personally involved in the battle. I consider fencing to be like a dance, or an art form. You must lose yourself in it, become detached and objective, one with your weapon. You saw that you were losing, and became frustrated, and I fed on your frustration. Certainly, you need to have emotion and adrenaline to draw upon, but you must contain them, or channel them, through a calm in the centre of your being. If you cannot focus on that calm, and discipline yourself to maintain that calm, come what may, then you provide your opponent with a greater advantage than any difference in physical skill would provide."
"Third, in the past, you angered me, by ignoring me in the ice Castle. As a result, I wanted this fight today so that I could prove a point to you, and make a point of honour. And, at the end of the fight, I was considerably more forceful with my blows than was needed, because you had angered me. When we first met, you antagonized me, when I bore you no ill-will. That was a foolish mistake on your part, for tactical reasons alone. There is no point in making enemies where there need not be enemies. Again, it may save your life one day. For example, at the end of the fight, if we were fighting with real blades, I could have killed you. Someone who has less ill-will toward you will not kill you--and you may be grateful for that small mercy at some future date.
"Now, I consider us even for your actions on Daywinter. I hope you feel the same, and we can start our relationship off on better terms now."
She proffers her hand, and will shake his in a gesture of good faith, if he is so inclined. She will make a point of spending some more time with Delwin, if he proves to be more friendly than in the past, and will continue to subtly reinforce the virtues of patience, calm, and courtesy.